When I first began on my journey seeking a Russian Bride, I was just in awe at how gorgeous they were AND that they were still available… as I’m sure most Western men feel when they visit these Russian woman sites too. Yes, it was eye candy heaven and I loved every minute of it. They all shared the same typical profile too… “Looking for man my dreams! I cook, clean and shall be the good wife! I want family with the children… where is you, man my dreams?”

Seemed simple enough, as I fit the profile for most of the Russian women on there. And as I searched towards finding the perfect Anna Kournikova clone, thinking of how I would rescue her from the fallout of Communism, poverty and near starvation… she, in return, would think of me as her hero, love me forever and worship the ground I walk upon.  All because I sent her an email. Yes, pure poetry to her ears that somebody from the Western world wanted her more than a bottle of Stolichnaya Vodka!

And after 2 years of courtship through emails, I eventually found my perfect match… a petite, sweet, blonde Russian girl named Nadejda. Only 25 years old… old enough to know what love is and still young enough to fall for it! Yes, I am a lucky man and have been very fortunate. But in my quest towards marrying a Russian woman, I have learned the truth that separates MYTH from REALITY. Many Russian bride sites will likely argue with me on many points — but this is because they have to. After all, they need Western men to spend their American dollars, right? But I want to set the record straight. My article is not to tear down the Russian Bride sites, but rather to amuse and entertain you while being truthful… so I will speak the truth based on my experiences.

So what is MYTH and what is REALITY? Well, let’s see, shall we?

1) Myth: All Russian women are just as beautiful as Anna Kournikova. Sorry, but unless you’re Anna Kournikova, the closest you’re ever going to get with her looks is a photo. MOST (and yes, I do mean MOST) Russian girls are a 7 at best, being on a scale from 1-10. I grew up in Chicago, Los Angeles and Las Vegas, so maybe my opinion is a bit biased… but living here in Russia, I have yet to see the beautiful women as represented within the agency sites. Also, I once heard that Russian women supposedly age more gracefully than American women… yet another myth. Most Russian women over 30 look terrible and are very much overweight. I have met some American men here in Russia and they all laughed because they agreed… Russian women over 30 look like they’re 45.

2) Reality: Russian women are more family oriented. Completely true! Russian cultures are very family oriented, especially the women. My wife talks to her sister and mother daily, and holidays you can expect large family gatherings.

3) Myth: Russian women would do anything to come to America. Completely false. Most Russian women are actually very intimidated of the very thought of leaving their home country. Again, they are very family oriented and while they might be intrigued to live in America (or elsewhere), the vast majority of Russian women don’t care to live that far away from their family… UNLESS you are a millionaire and want to share your money with their family!  I mean, hey, we’re all human, right?  Heck, I’d gladly sell my brother for a penny — any takers?

4) Reality: Russian women love Western men. This is actually true. Many Russian women are intrigued by foreign men (especially western men) and find it sexy that you’re not from their country. Not to mention, many Russian men drink heavily and are alcoholics, which also plays into why so many Russian women seek relationships abroad.  I believe hygene also plays into their decision too — but I can’t be too sure.  Perhaps I should ask them why they keep pinching their nose?

5) Myth: Money doesn’t really matter to Russian women. This is only true if you’re wealthy — because only then does it NOT matter. Sorry fellas, but your $30K salary will only be fine to a Russian lady if you reside within a Russia village or Ukraine. Outside of that, these ladies have no desire to trade in their $200 monthly flat just to live with you in your really cool trailer! If you plan on marrying a Russian woman, you had better bring something to the table besides your charming personality.

6) Reality: Russian women are faithful and loyal. This is very true from what I have experienced. Many Russian women are faithful and loyal to the ones they love. They are extremely devoted.

7) Myth: Russian women are too poor and don’t have the internet. I want to clarify this right now… this is NOT true for the majority of Russian women. Most people have the internet, and if not from home, I can assure you they have it from work and often check their emails at work. This is a common ploy agencies use to have you pay more money to use their mail forwarding services.

Reality: Russian people are broke and their salaries are very low. The average Russian woman makes about $200 per month. However, their cost of living is very low here, so think of it as making around $600 per month in the US. Living in Russia has taught me that this country is LAZY and BROKE… notice I said broke, not poor. There is a huge difference. Africa is a poor nation, but not Russia. Many Russians are lazy because — well, in all honesty, they have no desire to work for pennies a day.  Who can blame them?

9) Myth: Russian women are scammers and only want your money. Not true at all. Most Russian women who scam for money on the web are not even women at all… they are men posing as women. If a Russian woman ever asks you for money, 9 times out of 10 it’s a man posing as a woman.

10) Reality: Russian women are very strong individuals. These women have been through a lot in this country, so do not make the mistake of thinking a Russian woman needs a man to SAVE her because they don’t make a lot of money. They WANT a man, but definitely don’t NEED one. The divorce rate is high in this country because Russian women don’t have a problem with leaving their husbands due to mistreatment. If you treat them right, they will stay with you forever… but disrespect them, and they will drop you like a bad habit and never look back.

These are just a few things I discovered along the way. Russian women can and do make wonderful wives, but in order for this to happen, a man must pursue this with great patience. It won’t happen in 3 months… but if you persist at it and stay in touch with one girl for long enough, then I assure you, it can happen as it did with me! Good luck!!



Cheating Spouses

It is undeniably true that Russian brides are extremely sexy, and marriage with them will assure long years of faithful companionship. But at the same time, you must remember that your Russian wife will remain attached to her family back home in her country. It will be a very good idea to get acquainted with her family at the earliest.

Russians are a very close society, with each person sharing freely with others around. This feeling of togetherness has been fostered by long years of strife, which Russia had to face. Ever since the Second World War, Russian economy has been in the doldrums, and in the nineties, Russia was almost totally shattered. Because of such political turmoil, Russian society has been affected. Such sense of security is making the Russians come more close to each other.

During the economically tough times in Russia, things were so rough that friends and family had to share food, bread and other essentials. Naturally, it was the women of the house who took the brunt of this type of pressure and helped the family get through. So you can be sure that the lovely Russian lady whose heart you desire, has learnt from her mother and her experience.

Russian women are very staunch believers in their own customs and traditions, and that makes them look up to the men they marry for support. It has been taught to them customarily that men are the life-support of the family. Actually, this concept has been fostered in them since childhood, and has been born out of insecurity. That also makes these women very close to their mothers, aunts and grandmothers, since they have lived through similar situations together.

But the very backward situation of Russia has made the woman very conscious about their money. They are very alert in paying bills on time, and hence will become very good housekeepers. Your marriage with a Russian bride will also see to it that your financial condition will improve, because they are very good at saving. However you will need to discuss family before with your future Russian bride before marriage. Ask her very delicately if all is well with her family. Ask her how she will cope with living away from her family after the marriage and migration to your country.

In most cases, Russian women will not want to break up with their families, even though they will be all too desirous of setting up their love nest with you. That is why you will need to ask about her mother and father in particular. You must find out if there is someone to look after them when your bride has moved out of their house. And if not, then what is the solution she is making for them, in case there is a health emergency, for example.

Many a time, Russian marriages to foreigners happen because the woman does not want to live in poverty-ridden Russia and hence decides to become a bride for a foreigner and move out of the country. Many women will even accept that they married only for the citizenship and a better lifestyle. But that does not mean at all that they will not love their husbands. Even if they have married and come to escape their own country’s conditions, they will be very dutiful and faithful after marriage. They will never let down the husband who gave them a better life.

Even today, Russian brides after marriage with a foreigner will not forget their parents back home. The bond will only grow fonder in absence. Russian women will remain dependent on her husband for earning a livelihood and other emotional support, but they will surely appreciate the husband to allow her to care for her own parents. In fact, she might also expect to send some portion of your money to her parents back home if they have no one else to look after them.



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